The Satan: Before and After
The Baal Haturim points out that the
Torah writes a small "chof" in its description of Avraham's
crying for Sara after her passing. He says it was written this
way to show that Avraham only cried "a little bit."
This would seem not to be what we would expect from a husband
whose wife was not only his lifelong partner in marriage but his
lifelong partner in spreading the word of G-d throughout the world.
Moreover, the Torah describes Avraham
as arriving "to eulogize Sara and cry for her." Usually
one cries immediately after the occurrence of a tragedy out of
grief and only later offers a eulogy. It would seem that Avraham
did not cry for Sara until after he had first eulogized her. Why
is the order reversed?
The Kehillas Yaakov answers the question.
Rashi comments that the death of Sara is juxtaposed to the Akeida
in order to show that Sara died as a result of hearing that her
husband was going to kill her son. She was told of what was happening
by the Satan who succeeded in causing her to die of grief. But
his goal was not only to affect Sara, but Avraham as well. The
midrashim recount that the Satan unsuccessfully tried to prevent
Avraham from carrying out G-d's command to sacrifice his son.
But the Satan never gives up easily. If he cannot succeed in preventing
a person from performing a mitzvah, at the very least he will
later try to make that person regret his having done so.
Although he failed at convincing Avraham
to forego the Akeida, the Satan hoped that by Sara's death being
linked to that event, Avraham would regret having gone through
with it. By making Avraham feel guilty for Sara's death, he hoped
to stir up a feeling of regret on the part of Avraham for having
obeyed G-d's command to sacrifice Isaac. If Avraham would have
grieved excessively at the loss of Sara, people may have wrongly
interpreted his sorrow. It would have appeared to others that
indeed he regretted his involvement in the sacrifice of his son.
That is why he only cried "a little bit." This also
explains why he delayed his crying until after he first eulogized
her. He wanted to make it absolutely clear that he was not crying
tears of regret about having followed G-d's instructions regarding
the Akeida.
In the Friday evening liturgy, this
is the intent of our words in the prayer of Hashkiveinu - "And
remove the Satan from before us and after us." We pray to
G-d that He stops the Satan whether he is trying to stop us from
fulfilling a mitzvah before we have done it or trying to cause
us to regret over having performed it, after we have done it.